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The GOAL is

Jan 31, 2012

I love setting goals, I don’t always complete them. Sometimes I completely fail. Sometimes I simply write them down and forget about them. The shocking thing is that MOST people do nothing at all, in fact in a Harvard study of their graduates, only three percent of the graduates had written goals and plans; 13 percent had goals, but they were not in writing; and a whopping 84 percent had no specific goals at all. This is Harvard, not some community college like I went to. This is supposed to be the best and the brightest.

I really love that goals, if you choose, can motivate you to do more than you ever expected. I am currently writing a new book called, “I’m Not With the Herd”, it’s a book about the 2% (or less) of the planet that out-perform the rest of the 98%. It’s not because they are blessed with any super human powers or strength. Yes there are those of us that may be a bit quicker with numbers or more agile with a basketball or hockey stick in their hands. Please know they aren’t better as a person then you or I.

Here’s an amazing thought to chew on; there are no extra people on the planet! Everyone is supposed to be here. Why? I don’t know. I know that you are though and so am I. So, why not set goals to do BE, DO and HAVE the life you want. You can create an amazing life. Why do you have to do the same thing every day for 365 and call it a year and then do that for 60 or 70 years and call it a life.

I had a great friend visit last night and I hadn’t seen her in about 3 years. We shared a drink and got on the topic of why marriages don’t work. How most of our friends are either divorced, separated or hating their long term relationships. I think it’s because when you get married you fall into the trap of doing the same thing year after year. You don’t want to do it. You never plan on it happening. There aren’t many people that get married saying, “this will suck in a few years” or start a job and say, “I will hate this in 6 months”. It happens because once you “settle”, most of us stop. We forget the joy we had when it started. When you start most things they are always awesome. The goals are set every day. Sometimes without even trying! It’s exciting to do all the firsts. Same as a job or when you volunteer for a club or cause. It’s the thrill of the pursuit, the build up to the program or the creation of the cause.

I had a chat with someone over the holiday’s and they proclaimed that the organization they volunteered for didn’t appreciate them enough, didn’t recognize them enough or properly. Who cares, that’s not what it’s about. It’s about doing something for bigger reason than ourselves. It should be the goal we set when we joined. We should set our goals in life, relationships, jobs and community service every day. Once you stop you join the herd.

I am writing new lists tomorrow for February. I am also righting a few OUTRAGEOUS goals for myself to. Things I want to accomplish before I am 50. They are awesome. They are grand and that’s the best part. I realized I have already accomplished a ton but I want to do so much more. I have had the opportunity to bring other along with me and my goal 20 years ago has changed so many lives. The ripple effect of a little goal setting about 20 years ago this month created many new lives now.

The goal, I think, is to be more by challenging yourself to do, be and have more. Write a list of goals today. Set three to accomplish in the next 30 days. It may not only change your world but many more for years to come. Some people you haven’t even met yet!


Posted by Stu Saunders in Goal Setting Learning and Growing Motivation on Jan 31, 2012 at 11:04 pm | Permanent Link | Comments (5)

5 Comments

  • Comment posted on Jan 31, 2012 at 11:46 pm by Ann (YLCC Guest)

    It’s funny that I am reading this today. This morning while driving to work I was listening to the radio and they were talking about a new book called “Regrets of the dying” They listed the top five regrets that people have. It got me thinking about what I would regret. I think that you make some very interesting points in your blog. Here are the top five regrets:

      I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

     

      I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

     

      I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

     

      I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

     

      I wish that I had let myself be happier.

     
    It’s true what you say about setting goals, you may not always achieve everything that you set out for yourself but at least you will be heading in the right direction. Sometimes life just likes to throw you a few curves to make sure that you are paying attention. I think that if you try to remember these five simple things then maybe there will be no regrets at all.

  • Comment posted on Feb 1, 2012 at 11:01 am by Aaroneous (YLCC Member)

    Something really fun for me, is reading through or skimming through old journals with my new one in hand and rewriting a giant list of all the goals I havent accomplished yet. The best part of this process is actually crossing out the ones I had accomplished but being able to transfer these ideas from different years and books to one list, to see them all, to remind me of all the things I once wanted or things I still want. What a great feeling. Who knows if I will do them all, and yea there are some I move straight to the top if they are more feasible now, and yea there are some ridiculous ones that I may never accomplish BUT it is still a great reminder of who (at one time) I wanted to BE, what I wanted to be DOing and what I wanted to HAVE.

    Aaron Michael

  • Comment posted on Feb 1, 2012 at 1:07 pm by AnnMarie (YLCC Member)

    Stu, it was great to hear your voice today.  Great blog, too.  I am trying to get back on a familiar track.  A track headed toward my best life.  I’m trying to get OFF the train that took me on a very roundabout tour heading elsewhere. 

    (There are a lot of train metaphors here! Forgive me.)

    I know that when I was on the “best life” train, I was regularly setting goals, reading my goals, and achieving goals.  I had momentum!  I guess I need to get through all of this swampy fear that’s slowing me down.

    Gonna check out my list tonight!

    Ann Marie

  • Comment posted on Feb 3, 2012 at 10:10 pm by ryan_corkum (YLCC Member)

    Great post Stu!

    I agree, that sometimes we lose sight of the “whyness” and initial “joy” of what we do. We do everything for a reason; I don’t think there are accidents.

    What really struck a chord with me was when you mentioned your friend that felt frustrated because she didn’t feel valued during her volunteer experience. You said that we need to do things for reasons bigger than ourselves.

    Sure, maybe I didn’t win or was even nominated for COTWK at all during the Summer…but that didn’t matter to me. I didn’t take that job to win an award. I was there for the campers; and the satisfaction, joy and respect they showed towards me told me all I needed to know.

    People ask me all the time why I want to be a teacher. They complain how tough a job it is. Real joy comes from helping others. That’s a lesson I learned recently. Teaching and working at camp brings me many intangible rewards…rewards that have a deeper impact on me than any tangible reward could.

    Thanks for the blog Stu!

    - Ryan

  • Comment posted on Feb 4, 2012 at 4:03 pm by Carolyn-Marie Goodwin (YLCC Member)

    Thank you for this inspirational post. 

    I certainly believe that we all do and start things because they are new, exciting and unexplored territory.  The start of something new is always an adventure.  The unknown makes us experience so much emotion that it brings us so much joy and happiness.

    As time progresses, you right, it gets familiar and we become comfortable and settle.  We forget to continue to challenge our selves and the world around us.  We just start accepting and like you said….follow the herd.

    Goal setting was something I have always done but more often then not, I never followed through.  Creating excuse after excuse as to why it couldn’t be done or why I just had to make an exception.  The truth of the matter was, that I was comfortable doing what I have always done which honestly never got me quite far.  Just like Albert Einstein said, ‘insanity: doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.’ 

    Once we become settled in our lives we expect ‘life’ to WOW us.  Like we have worked hard, sacrificed and learned a great deal, so the world and others owe it to us to keep us engaged.  Really we owe it to ourselves to keep ourselves engaged and challenged.

    Goal setting is an excellent way to do this, especially if we remember to ‘Fail Up’ and stop making excuses.  The happiness and growth we get from achieving these goals, makes the challenge of it worth it.

    Thank you Stu, for always making me challenge myself and realize the importance of goal setting in my life!

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